Hi there! I’m Chris Rackliffe. I help people with an anxious attachment style grow more emotionally secure in themselves and their relationships.
I know first-hand what it’s like to live with an anxious attachment style: The constant worrying, the difficulty focusing, the dreadful fears of being abandoned once again.
But I’ve devoted many years to breaking old patterns and healing my heart.
Now, I’m helping my clients do the same.
I’ve spent thousands of hours helping anxious attachers across five continents to learn what I’ve learned, aiding them as a companion on their healing journey.
I’d be honored to join yours, too.
You can set up a free 15-minute consultation with me in the following module or by clicking here. Be sure to also explore my new book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment, available exclusively on Amazon.
On this page, I’ll share a little bit more about me and my work. Here’s what I’ll cover:
How I became an anxious attachment style coach
What does it look like to have an anxious attachment style?
The S.E.C.U.R.E. framework for healing anxious attachment
Chris Rackliffe coaching testimonials
Needy No More: Anxious attachment style coaching program by Chris Rackliffe
How to set up a free consultation with me to explore coaching
Anxious attachment style coaching FAQ
But first, let me tell you how I got here.
How I became an anxious attachment style coach
“You’re glowing!” My boss at the time exclaimed, tilting her head to the side to evaluate me during our weekly catch up. “Tell me absolutely everything."
“I met someone,” I said coyly, beaming with a light she'd rarely seen in me. “We actually went to college together and reconnected this past weekend.”
As the words left my mouth, the memories came roaring back.
Eyes locking across the bar, sparks flying as his lips met mine, legs grazing in crisp cotton sheets.
As if seeing the flashbacks as they flooded in, my boss simply smiled and asked for a hug, wishing me the best before we returned to our meeting agenda.
From that point forward, my college connection and I messaged incessantly, sharing every mundane detail of our days and staying up late into the night talking about life and love, heartbreak and happiness. I even went to visit him in Chicago for a long weekend together. Our spark kindled into a flame.
But, as I’d quickly discover, that flame would soon be extinguished.
A mélange of emotions washed over me when I felt him pull away emotionally just a short while later. My phone buzzed less and less often. His messages became brief, curt, few and far between. Confusion settled in. Did I do something to upset him? I wondered. I felt shocked at how swiftly things took a turn, bewildered that this was the same man with whom I saw a future, riddled with shame that I wasn’t good enough for him.
I tried everything to restore our sense of connection. I had his favorite flowers delivered to his office. I sent him dinner at home from his go-to takeout spot. I reminisced about our trip and the memories we made. I flirted and tried to entice him to do the same. In a moment of weakness I even contemplated flying back to Chicago to surprise him. I was willing to do anything to bring the spark back.
But nothing worked. If anything, it only made him pull away more—and pushed me deeper into a spiral of self-doubt, self-loathing, and self-abandonment.
It was another weekly check-in with my boss that snapped me out of it.
“Is everything okay outside of work?” She asked, perplexed by my plummeting performance. “I’m really worried about you.”
“I’m worried about me, too,” I said as I shed tears of anguish and anxiety into my cupped hands. “I feel like everything’s falling apart.”
It was in that room that I realized I needed to get help. Days later, I met with a therapist.
Our conversation changed the trajectory of my life forever.
“Have you heard of attachment styles?” She asked me at the end of our first session.
“I remember reading something about that in one of my psychology courses,” I said. “Why do you ask?”
“It seems like you might have an anxious attachment style,” she said. “I think you should brush up on attachment theory.”
Desperate to relieve my anxiety, I immediately followed her advice.
My research of attachment theory forever changed me.
Suddenly, I understood how my past traumas and current struggles with relationships were connected. It finally made sense how the instability I experienced growing up was connected to the instability I was experiencing as an adult. There it was, laid out before me in black text on white paper: The pattern of dating emotionally unavailable men, the crippling self-doubt and sense of shame, the desperate attempts to show my affection so I wouldn’t be abandoned.
Of course I’d feel this way considering what I’ve been through, I thought. Tears of a different kind flowed this time. Tears of relief. Tears of understanding. Tears of validation.
Identifying my attachment style was nothing short of a watershed moment for me—a seismic shift that instantly split my life into before and after this groundbreaking discovery. It’s difficult to describe the kind of clarity I experienced when I realized that everything I’ve ever questioned about myself has an explanation, that every moment of doubt or worry or fear is rooted in specific origins and makes sense when I contextualized my experiences, that feeling anxious in relationships with others doesn’t mean I’m needy or broken, that I learned this way of relating to others and, as a result, can unlearn it, too.
At that moment, I made a pact with myself that I’d never stop talking about attachment theory. For the rest of my life, I vowed to tirelessly spread the powerful message of self-awareness packed into this fundamental framework so others could share in this same eye-opening experience—so they wouldn’t waste precious time, make countless mistakes, or repeat painful patterns like I had. My biggest hope was that they wouldn’t feel crazy, needy, or alone like I did for so long.
In the years since, I’ve kept that promise, even as I’ve continued working to grow more secure and advance on my own healing journey. I made a plan to pursue this purpose full-time, eventually taking the essential leap of faith to become an anxious attachment style coach and self-help author. I published my first book, It’s Good to See Me Again, detailing my own traumas and how I was able to move forward in forgiveness and self-love. I posted dozens of inspirational and informative blogs right here on this website that have reached over 300,000 people in more than 100 countries. I recorded hundreds of videos on TikTok, building a community that’s nearly 150,000 people strong—and garnering millions of views, likes, and comments, too. And I’ve worked with countless others in one-on-one and group formats in my coaching practice—as well as with my digital downloads—helping people across the globe to improve their relationships with themselves and others.
To say that attachment theory and attachment styles have changed my life would be an understatement, since I’ve now impacted the lives of so many more as a result.
And it all started with the devastating dissolution of that situationship with my college acquaintance.
Looking back now, I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
What does it look like to have an anxious attachment style?
The anxious or preoccupied attachment style is one of the four attachment styles in attachment theory. Attachment theory was founded in the late 1960s by psychiatrist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, and later refined by developmental psychologist Mary Ainsworth in the 1970s. It continues to be researched today, more than 50 years after its inception.
Everyone has an attachment style, and we develop our attachment style as a result of our early childhood experiences. A person's attachment style is based on their interactions with their primary caregivers in early childhood, and honed in adult romantic relationships.
Anxious attachment comes from emotional neglect or inconsistency in the love and affection of those closest to the child. If not addressed, these traumatic childhood experiences will leave imprints on our nervous systems and adversely affect our adult relationships.
If any of the below scenarios resonate with you, you likely have an anxious attachment style. Have you:
Struggled being single while watching many people around you settle down
Made every effort to find a lasting partnership while coming up short, questioning if there’s something wrong with you in the process
Obsessed over every move made or message sent by someone you were dating
Lost sleep worrying if they’ll leave you
Lashed out when you feel slighted or ignored
Craved constant reassurance and compliments
Stalked your dating prospects on social media—sometimes until the early hours of the morning
Felt like you lost yourself in a relationship
Let your needs fall to the wayside in order to build or maintain a connection
Resented dating partners for not meeting your expectations
Struggled to communicate your needs or set boundaries in relationships
Manipulated and controlled others to get your needs met
Fallen for someone really quickly, only for things to end just as fast
Been completely consumed by fear of abandonment
If you nodded “yes” to any of the above situations, the first thing I want to tell you is that you are not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with you.
Your attachment style isn’t fixed and unchangeable. It’s certainly not a sentence to a life of suffering. You’re fully capable of becoming securely attached and experiencing the love and safety for which you yearn so deeply.
How do I know? I see it every day in my work!
One of my previous clients, Devon, was struggling with her anxious attachment style as a single woman when we started working together.
Devon had been single for 6 years and was in and out of situationship after situationship. Nothing seemed to be working out. When she reached out to me, she had already tried several different forms of therapy, read dozens of self-help books, and still struggled to have the kind of connection she wanted. Worst of all, as a woman in her early 30s she felt the all-too-familiar pressure to settle down and have a family that so many women experience. She suffered tremendously.
While working with me, I encouraged her to put herself out there one final time. She ended up going on a date with someone who wasn’t her usual type. And they’ve been together ever since! They care deeply for each other and have created a safe partnership where they are equals and navigate life’s challenges together. After two years of being together, they’ve moved into a shared apartment and are engaged to be married.
Devon and her partner, Randy, after getting engaged.
I want you to know that this kind of relationship is possible for you, too!
So, let’s glimpse into the not-so-distant future, to a sunny Saturday morning about six months from now. Let’s also assume that we’ve worked together to help you advance in your healing and grow more secure. You’re a new and improved version of the already amazing person you are now.
You wake up in your bed feeling refreshed, as the sun beams through the curtains or blinds. You look over and see a partner there resting peacefully. You feel grateful for their presence because you know that you are safe with them and can be your authentic self. You know that in the time that separates you now from you then you’ve learned how to be a healthier partner and build a more secure relationship. Knowing that you have the whole day ahead of you, and that you can spend it by yourself, with friends or family, or even together with your partner, I want you to envision how that day would go. Take some time and picture the mundane details such as holding hands and laughing together. Allow whatever emotions that come up for you to surface. Sit with those feelings for a few moments. Give yourself permission to bask in them.
That was an interesting exercise, right?
While some of you might have felt the warm and fuzzies, others of you might not have been able to fully envision what it would feel like to have a safe relationship. Either way, I want you to know that it’s absolutely within reach. Even if you’ve done everything in your power to try to create it. Even if it’s never worked like you thought it would. Even if your patterns run deep, going back many years.
Every day, I watch clients learn to:
Regulate their nervous system and expand their capacity to manage triggers
Express how they’re feeling in a clear, calm, and compassionate way
Understand, honor, and validate who they are and what they need
Drop the manipulation and control tactics
Stop self-sabotaging
Ask for what they need directly while also understanding that their partner isn’t a need-fulfilling machine
Prioritize a sense of safety while dating, setting boundaries early on around what matters most to them
Be more independent, balancing their own needs with those of a romantic partner
Pace themselves while getting to know someone new
Bring the focus back to the only thing they can control: Themselves!
Sleep soundly at night, knowing they are safe no matter what
Actually enjoy the good times in their relationship without waiting for the other shoe to drop
More importantly, I see clients go from feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and disconnected to feeling calm, peaceful, easeful, blissful, supported, appreciated, cared for, connected, loved, less stressed, better balanced, free, regulated, and happy!
Since you’ve read this far, please know that I believe in you. I know you’re capable of becoming securely attached and have full faith that you can get there.
I have done it, as have many of my clients.
It will take courage and it will take work. But if you so desire, I’m here to support you every step along the way.
Because you deserve to feel safe. You deserve to embody your worth. And you deserve to experience a love that feels secure, stable, and supportive.
I felt the same about my former client, Larizza. Watch her powerful story and hear about her incredible transformation—and safe relationship!—below.
Larizza and I worked together back in 2021. Listen to what she has to say about that transformative time in her life—and how far she’s come since!
Here’s the thing: After having healed my own anxious attachment style, and having coached hundreds of clients to do the same, I noticed the common patterns in our healing journeys.
One of the things that stands out most? Our shame for feeling needy.
Please hear me clearly, taking in every word I’m about to say: You are not needy and you never were. As human beings, we all have emotional needs. Needs are neither good nor bad. And just because yours might look different from your partner’s doesn’t mean that they get to judge you. Or that you get to judge them.
In fact, I look at needy as a derogatory term. That’s why I named my coaching program Needy No More—to help redefine and reclaim this word. Once and for all.
While redefining the narrative around the word needy is helpful, growing secure is what we all truly desire. That’s why I created the S.E.C.U.R.E. framework, a method designed to make your healing journey as easy and effortless as possible.
The S.E.C.U.R.E. framework for healing anxious attachment
The S.E.C.U.R.E. framework covers the essential steps to becoming securely attached:
S - Strengthening self-worth
E - Emotionally diversifying
C - Compassionately communicating
U - Understanding yourself
R - Regulating your nervous system
E - Embodying emotional permanence
The magic of coaching is that it’s a living, breathing healing method—a modality focused on co-creation. While your current experiences and feelings will guide our focus for each of our coaching sessions, we’ll continue to lean on the stable foundation of the S.E.C.U.R.E. framework. This ensures that we address all aspects of becoming securely attached throughout our time together, so that you can experience your best relationships yet.
The S.E.C.U.R.E. framework stands for:
S: Strengthening self-worth. As an anxiously attached person, you likely have low self-worth. You might lack boundaries. You might people please. You might pursue misaligned partners because you don’t think you deserve better. During our coaching, we’ll focus on re-establishing your sense of self-worth through deep-dive questions, somatics techniques, and self-acceptance. You’ll develop a sense of safety from within and trust your ability to make healthy choices in love.
E: Emotionally diversifying. While a romantic partner can add a significant amount of joy to your life, they can’t be your everything; when it comes to connecting with others, no one person should be your end-all, be-all. As human beings, we are social creatures. We need a wide variety of relationships in life, such as with friends, family, colleagues, and ourselves. A romantic partner can and should add to the mix, but they shouldn’t represent the vast majority of where you get your emotional needs met. For this reason, I have my clients practice what I call emotional diversification. Borrowed from the world of finance, diversification is a strategy for mitigating risk. From an emotional standpoint, diversification aims to broaden our sources of connection so that when our romantic relationship takes a downturn we’re still supported and able to navigate through life without being completely devastated and derailed. The same power is available to you. And we will tap into it together in our coaching container.
C: Compassionately Communicating. Being anxiously attached often means you hold back from communicating what you want out of fear of being “too much.” But voicing your needs and boundaries is an essential step to healing and owning your worth. We’ll practice communicating like a securely attached person, which will skyrocket you toward the healthy relationships you desire.
U: Understanding yourself. As an anxious attacher, you’re probably highly self-aware. But awareness is not the same as understanding. In our work together, I’ll guide you as we dive deep into your needs, values, love languages, strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats, so you can finally honor and own who you are and the kind of romantic partner you need. You’ll get to understand yourself better than ever through our time together and become your own best friend rather than your biggest critic.
R: Regulating your nervous system. Did you know that trauma is stored in the body? Coaching, talking, and other cognitive or mind-driven approaches are an essential component of healing, but an equally important part is releasing the trauma that’s trapped in your body. And that’s accomplished through somatic or body-driven techniques. With somatics, we’ll rewrite your reactions that show up in triggering situations. You’ll learn how to consciously respond instead of instantly reacting. No more protest behavior or saying or doing things you’ll regret.
E: Embodying emotional permanence. Have you ever felt the urge to ask your partner if they still love you, even if you last did it an hour ago? If you’re anxiously attached, you can feel the need for constant reassurance from people around you, especially romantic partners. This is because of a lack of emotional permanence. As we work on cultivating emotional permanence, you’ll be able to focus on all the things that make life amazing—like your friendships, passions, and purpose—instead of worrying about if your partner’s feelings about you have changed or being constantly consumed by thoughts of the relationship.
Chris Rackliffe coaching testimonials
Dara S, 34 years old, California
“Working with Chris honestly changed my life for the better. I got so much more than I hoped for and expected. He is insightful, kind and compassionate. He opened my eyes up to a lot of new thinking with dating not only in how I show up but what I can look for in a future partner. While I am still single, I definitely feel more confident and at ease in the dating process and this is through the work he guides you through during the program. Chris is someone you want and need in your corner if you want to navigate your love life with greater ease and I am beyond grateful for finding and investing in him! I can't thank him enough, he truly is a magical person who has a gift!”
Rebecca S, 28 years old, West Virginia
“I began working with Chris a few months after a horrendous breakup. I had been crushed by someone who I thought was ‘the one,’ and I wasn't sure how to heal. I had known for a while that I have an anxious attachment style, but I could never find the right tools on how to manage it. Chris showed me the way. The program has been incredibly helpful, and Chris is ever so encouraging. He's truly in your corner. I felt my confidence returning bit by bit each week, and I now know not just how to manage my attachment style, but to how to thrive with it.”
Sarah Anne S, 34 yers old, New York
“Simply put, my life would not be the same without Chris. He has helped me navigate many of life’s challenges, including devastating breakups, promotion negotiations, feelings of stagnation, and everything in between. He is a synthesizer, able to take my oftentimes tangled, biased thoughts and determine rational steps forward. With Chris’ guidance, I’ve been able to get out of own way and become my best self, and would recommend him to anyone who is looking for a transformation from the inside out.”
Goli S, 31 years old, California
“I cannot fathom, nor even comprehend how much of a godsend Chris is! Chris happens to be one of the most phenomenal, kind hearted, compassionate, and loving coaches that I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with. He made it easy for me to trust him with my deepest concerns and past traumas. Chris is educated in his coaching and he is a gift of this world. I had a severe anxious attachment style and he taught me how to protect my inner child. His program helps you connect with your most inner being, challenges you to grow, and evolve into a secure human. I had to go through the lynch mob of what I call healing. It was painful. It was hurtful. It was daring. It was powerful. It was transformative. It was life changing. My life is now at peace since working with him. I’m secure within myself and I’ve become centered. I’m eternally grateful for Chris and his program.”
Samantha B, 27 years old, New Jersey
“I am incredibly thankful to have had the opportunity to work with Chris as my coach. I started this program fed up with being anxious all the time and having it ruin all of my romantic relationships, but hopeless that I would ever be able to feel secure with myself let alone dating. Working with Chris has allowed me to open up and really look deep within myself to begin healing from past traumas. Not only did Chris make me feel super comfortable, but HE GETS IT. Chris has experienced an anxious attachment style first hand, so he knew exactly how I was feeling, and even in situations where I couldn't quite get the right words out to explain myself, he still understood me. In the last couple months I have seen myself grow substantially in ways I never thought possible because of my anxiety. Chris is amazing and I highly recommend him to anyone with an anxious attachment style. Just give him a chance, and I promise you will not regret it!”
Kaitlin P, 25 years old, North Carolina
“Chris was such an AMAZING coach. I've been in therapy for years and have never been able to accomplish this level of growth from working with someone. He was very honest and provided helpful tips to move past my anxious attachment style to a healthy one. My relationships, both platonic and romantic are in a much better place since working with Chris. This was so worth it! If you're ready to grow, this will be one of the best decisions you can make for yourself.”
Micah R, 27 years old, New York
“Do it. Seriously, do it! Getting Chris as a coach is one of the best decisions I've made. If you have an anxious attachment and are looking for ways to overcome your anxiety and negative thoughts, I promise Chris will guide you and provide you with the tools towards healing.”
Jessica H, 39 years old, Illinois
“Chris, is a God send. I was at a very critical point in my life; at the point of contemplating ending it. My father had recently passed and my relationship was on the brink of ending. I was attracting the same person with a different name and face. I decided it was time to change and being a part of the Needy No More Program was the change I needed. I cannot begin to explain how transformative the program is. If you are not willing to do the work, please save your time and money. You must put in the work to get the desired results. Chris provides a detailed breakdown to help you reach the goal. Chris is present, supportive, understanding, and he's been through it as well, which is why he is such an amazing coach! I am so amazingly grateful for the experience! It was hard. I cried, I was tried, and I made it through! Thank you, Chris! I am so blessed to have joined the program. Looking forward to what's to come in this next chapter of my life.”
James H, 35 years old, New York
“Chris has been truly excellent! If you are on the fence about taking up coaching with Chris, bite the bullet and just do it! I stumbled upon Chris after I found myself struggling with crippling anxiety after meeting someone amazing that I could clearly see was secure and very special. This someone was a breath of fresh air compared to previous partners, but my anxiety still reared its ugly head as in prior relationships. I was afraid that unless I tackled this anxiety head on, I was in danger of losing the person. Through the program and the work with Chris, I learned an awful lot about myself. I learned that I was neglecting self care and that this is a fundamental life requirement that affects our relationships, career and wellbeing. I learned that my experiences in previous relationships do not define who I am now. I also was able to realize that I've gone though a lot and this was the first time I aired and addressed it. I put in a lot of hard work and my confidence has only grown. As a result, my relationship with the amazing someone is is in a great place and my friends are noticing the positive change in my behavior. I am my happy, cheeky, and sociable self again and I am looking forward to using the tools and techniques Chris has taught me for the rest of my life.”
Emma B, 35 years old, Minnesota
“Chris's coaching program was extremely beneficial to working through my anxious attachment style. He is warm, caring, and individualized with his clients and very well versed in this field. I felt totally understood and heard throughout the entire experience together!”
Needy No More: Anxious attachment style coaching program by Chris Rackliffe
Are you tired of feeling lost and confused in your romantic life? Are you exhausted by your patterns of self-sabotage and committed to do the work to grow more secure? Are you ready to get off the emotional roller coaster and finally have the safe and stable relationship you crave so deeply?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above, I first want to congratulate you. Declaring that you’re ready to heal is the first step to claiming that healing for yourself.
The next step is about finding the support you need.
If you’ve made it this far, it’s likely because what I’ve shared has resonated with you at a deep level. I want you to know that I’m truly honored. As you read above, I got into this to help prevent people like you from wasting years of their lives spent feeling ashamed, confused, and stuck—from feeling like I did for many excruciating years. Just knowing that I’ve sparked something in you lights up something in me. It makes me feel fulfilled. It reminds me that I’m living my purpose.
If you feel aligned with that purpose and ready to build the secure relationship you crave—both with yourself and others—I’d be honored and delighted to join you on that journey.
Here are the details for my Needy No More coaching program.
What is Needy No More?
Needy No More is a 12-week coaching program designed specifically to help people with an anxious attachment style grow more secure in themselves and their relationships.
I’ve spent thousands of hours coaching hundreds of clients across nearly every continent with my tried-and-true S.E.C.U.R.E. framework, watching them completely transform their lives for the better in the process.
I look forward to seeing how it can help you, too.
The Needy No More support model
There are three ways I support my clients throughout our 12-week journey together:
Sessions with me: These calls are structured, practical, and goal-oriented—and will cover the following:
We’ll kick off with a quick meditation to ground us for our conversation
We’ll discuss and dissect what’s been happening in your life since we last met
Setbacks
Wins
Areas of improvement
We’ll review any insights gathered from the exercises and challenges
As a part of our ongoing dialogue, you can ask me questions and get feedback
Exercises and challenges: An essential part of Needy No More, these will take on average approximately an hour to complete for each of the 12 weeks in the coaching container. These will keep you making progress between our sessions so you can maximize your growth.
Messaging support: Life happens minute by minute, not session by session. That’s why I offer messaging support to my clients. Because I don’t want you holding back anything in between our sessions. When you’re triggered and spiraling, message me. When you need an objective point of view, message me. When you want feedback on your dating profile or a text message conversation, message me. I’m always here for you!
Needy No More coaching program packages
There are four coaching packages available in the Needy No More coaching program—two group coaching packages and two one-on-one coaching packages. I’ll review them below. If they pique your interest, you can set up a free consultation with me here or via the module below.
Group coaching
Group Hug Coaching Package: Connect with others just like you in this introductory group version of the coaching program.
12-week container
4 group coaching sessions to be held once every 2-3 weeks throughout the program
30 exercises and challenges to help heal from anxious attachment and make progress in between sessions
Private Facebook Messenger thread for ongoing support for all my clients
It Takes a Village Coaching Package: A robust healing container in a group format, this version of my program will truly help you feel that you’re not alone on your journey to grow more secure.
12-week container
8 group coaching sessions to be held about once a week throughout the program with four weeks off
45 exercises and challenges to help heal from anxious attachment and make progress in between sessions
Private Facebook Messenger thread for ongoing support for all my clients
1:1 coaching
Healing Accelerator Coaching Package: Want to super-charge your healing journey? This version of my coaching program is for you. Take my hand as we venture forward 1:1.
12-week container
4 1:1 coaching sessions to be held once every 2-3 weeks throughout the program
30 exercises and challenges to help heal from anxious attachment and make progress in between sessions
Private Facebook Messenger thread for ongoing support for all my clients
BONUS:
Real-time 1:1 text messaging support directly with me
Total Transformation Coaching Package: For those seeking the greatest level of support I offer. Let’s go deep and completely make over your life.
12-week container
8 1:1 coaching sessions to be held about once a week throughout the program with four weeks off
45 exercises and challenges to help heal from anxious attachment and make progress in between sessions
Private Facebook Messenger thread for ongoing support for all my clients
BONUS:
Real-time 1:1 text messaging support directly with me
How to set up a free consultation with me to explore coaching
Interested in applying for the Needy No More anxious attachment style coaching program? I’d be delighted to speak with you. You can set up a free 15-minute consultation with me via the module below.
Anxious attachment style coaching FAQ
How much does the coaching program cost? I’d be happy to share my rates with you once we’ve had a chance to meet and determine if we’d like to work with one another. Keep in mind, the minimum investment to work with me starts at $1,500 over the course of the 12-week program and goes up from there.
How is coaching different from therapy? The aim of coaching is to identify wounds and heal them. We won’t simply reiterate the past or focus on the surface-level issues. Instead, we’ll use powerful and practical methods to target the root cause, mend the lasting effects of your past experiences, and build secure attachment. My goal is that you’ll be self-sufficient after our 12-week coaching journey together. Here are some key differences between talk therapy and coaching:
Talk therapy:
General
Nonlinear
Client led
Session based
Focused on self-realization
Little to no support in between sessions
Question driven
Process oriented
Guides from counseling experience
Coaching:
Specific
Practical
Coach led
Program/container based
Focused on skills development
Assignments and messaging in between sessions
Answer driven
Outcome oriented
Guides from life experience
Am I guaranteed results? Just like a relationship, the outcome of coaching depends on both people involved—in this case, you and I. While you will get support, guidance, encouragement, and accountability, you need to be willing to put in your part of the work. While I can’t guarantee results, here’s what I’ll say: If you do the work, you’ll progress faster than if you try to heal your anxious attachment on your own. Ultimately, you get out what you put in. If you invest time and energy into this work and really lean into the full coaching container including texting and exercises, you will make significant progress. Everyone makes progress at different speeds and in different ways. I look forward to seeing your transformation over the course of our work together.
How much time will it take? Between exercises and sessions, you can expect to dedicate a minimum of two hours per week to our coaching work. Keep in mind, the more you work at this, the more you get out of it. All coaching containers are 12 weeks in length.
Are there payment plans available? Yes. Customizable payment plans are available for all coaching packages. If you choose to enroll, we will set up your payment plan together at that point in time. A 20% minimum down payment is required to enroll in the program. You can finance the remaining balance however you’d like across the 12-week journey together.
I would love to become securely attached, but I can’t afford coaching. Do you have any other healing options available? There are payment plans if you wish to split up the investment to make it more affordable over time. If that is not an option for you at this time, please explore my Anxious Attachment Style Healing Starter Kit, check out my book Needy No More, or join my free Facebook support group.
How long are the coaching sessions? 1:1 coaching calls are 50 minutes long. Group coaching calls vary based on the size of the group and can be between 60 and 90 minutes long.
Can I upgrade from one version of the program to another? You can upgrade one time within the first 10 days of enrolling in the program. Once upgraded, you cannot downgrade back.
Do you offer refunds? Due to the nature of coaching as a months-long journey, I am unable to offer refunds. I’m more than happy to honor the services for which you’ve paid so long as you utilize them while they’re available to you during your 12-week container.